Mars vs. Venus is a great song by Usher. In fact, it's one of my favorite slow jams by him #RandomPoint #NobodyCares. But unfortunately this post is not as pleasant as the basis of his song.
His song takes the idea of the two different planets, Mars and Venus (aka...man and woman) colliding with each other to make great sex (or some kinda smooth shit like that). But the original Mars and Venus contrast comes from the John Gray book titled "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus". The book (and following books in that series) pretty much goes in depth to explain that in relationships, men and women have huge differences in their ways of doing, expressing, and understanding pretty much everything.
Anyone who has been in enough relationships could understand this notion. Let's face it...this isn't an archeological find here people. It's not like I'm saying that you aren't supposed to have differences in a relationship but there has to be a line drawn somewhere, right? We all have have had that significant other that never seems to get "our" side of an argument. At times, that person seems to make the relationship almost or, in certain cases, not worth the trouble of being in it.
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Here is where the duel of "Mars vs. Venus = Tamed vs. Change" happens.
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My belief is that when couples have enough arguments or even simple disagreements, there comes sort of a breaking point that one or both parties reach. That breaking point brings the basics of the relationship to the surface...the Man vs. the Woman, vice verca. The nature of both the man and the woman come out swinging and neither want to back down. The woman's nature is to make the man be less of what his nature is...and the nature of the man is to be more of what his nature is and make the woman become more understanding of his nature. It's quite simple.
Example: A guy likes to hang out with the guys and drink beers and do guy shit like talk about guy stuff that he shouldn't really share with his girlfriend. Some women may want for their man to share the stories but no woman wants the man to do all of the other guy shit, at least not with them. But yet, a woman will complain if she feels like her man is spending too much time with they guys doing this guy shit. Her nature is to ultimately change him from doing all of that guy shit altogether because she doesn't do any of that shit. But, the mans nature is try to tame her from changing him, and try to get her to understand that he needs the guy time just to keep him balanced with his relationship.
The best way to have the duel of tame vs. change is to have that all out argument. If you do that, both the man and woman are going to be honest, just brutally. The 2nd worst way to have this duel is the settling way which is normally done by the man. Ladies, you may not know this but, we settle a lot of arguments with you by just keeping our mouths shut. The worst way of having the battle of tame vs. change is the mischievous way that women do it...unfortunately because women are ever evolving in their diabolical ways of treachery, I am yet to come up with a proper term for it. #Sorry. Women know that p*ssy is power. With that being said, women will use that power to get what they want from their man in matters of their relationship. So fellas, if you are arguing with your lady, and are winning or are right, and then you get some sex...it means you have lost, buddy. You have lost because 99 out of 100 times after you get some mind blowing sex from your lady, you will not soften your position of whatever you where arguing with here about, you will more likely never bring that shit up again because you don't want her to withhold sex from you. Hence: she made you change.
Loser!
Now, there is a way for a man to (as we used to say in the early 90's) flip the script and rewrite it a new. No gentlemen, you could never make her change her mind or her position in the argument, but what you can do is what I like to call...Tame her. When your girlfriend offers you that "Argument Sex" take it, and remind her why you are MAN! By hitting out of the park like Ken Griffey Jr. used to do, you can make her never bring that subject up (until the next argument that you have because women like bringing up old shit). Even when she brings it back up...hit it outta the park further. Sooner or later you will see that, in time, she won't even bring that subject back up...and why? Because she has been tamed.
When I say tamed, I'm sure some women are going to become offended by the phrasing. But ladies, if you have ever settled on an argument that you have brought up twice, you settled because your man is hitting it right. And guys, if you have settled on an argument that she only had to bring up once, then your lady is putting down right. Job well done to those who are handling there business in the sack.
For the record, I will never be changed by any woman...#Sorry just wont happen.
But I have been known to tame a few in my day...#NotSorry
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