My day was kind of bland...didn't do anything special at all
Sonny Vega /// Block Music Boys Ent.
Friday, January 14, 2011
do you think it's a turn off for a girl (19+) whose never had a boyfriend?
Not really. I think she is far behind the learning curves of relationships
Thursday, January 13, 2011
Sonny that questions seems too be like looks or brains what is more valuable in a chick?
it depends on who the man is...i mean every guy is different. to me, the most important thing is neither the looks, nor the brains...it's the charachter, the personality, the heart
Tuesday, January 11, 2011
Mars vs. Venus = Tame vs. Change
Mars vs. Venus is a great song by Usher. In fact, it's one of my favorite slow jams by him #RandomPoint #NobodyCares. But unfortunately this post is not as pleasant as the basis of his song.
His song takes the idea of the two different planets, Mars and Venus (aka...man and woman) colliding with each other to make great sex (or some kinda smooth shit like that). But the original Mars and Venus contrast comes from the John Gray book titled "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus". The book (and following books in that series) pretty much goes in depth to explain that in relationships, men and women have huge differences in their ways of doing, expressing, and understanding pretty much everything.
Anyone who has been in enough relationships could understand this notion. Let's face it...this isn't an archeological find here people. It's not like I'm saying that you aren't supposed to have differences in a relationship but there has to be a line drawn somewhere, right? We all have have had that significant other that never seems to get "our" side of an argument. At times, that person seems to make the relationship almost or, in certain cases, not worth the trouble of being in it.
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Here is where the duel of "Mars vs. Venus = Tamed vs. Change" happens.
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My belief is that when couples have enough arguments or even simple disagreements, there comes sort of a breaking point that one or both parties reach. That breaking point brings the basics of the relationship to the surface...the Man vs. the Woman, vice verca. The nature of both the man and the woman come out swinging and neither want to back down. The woman's nature is to make the man be less of what his nature is...and the nature of the man is to be more of what his nature is and make the woman become more understanding of his nature. It's quite simple.
Example: A guy likes to hang out with the guys and drink beers and do guy shit like talk about guy stuff that he shouldn't really share with his girlfriend. Some women may want for their man to share the stories but no woman wants the man to do all of the other guy shit, at least not with them. But yet, a woman will complain if she feels like her man is spending too much time with they guys doing this guy shit. Her nature is to ultimately change him from doing all of that guy shit altogether because she doesn't do any of that shit. But, the mans nature is try to tame her from changing him, and try to get her to understand that he needs the guy time just to keep him balanced with his relationship.
The best way to have the duel of tame vs. change is to have that all out argument. If you do that, both the man and woman are going to be honest, just brutally. The 2nd worst way to have this duel is the settling way which is normally done by the man. Ladies, you may not know this but, we settle a lot of arguments with you by just keeping our mouths shut. The worst way of having the battle of tame vs. change is the mischievous way that women do it...unfortunately because women are ever evolving in their diabolical ways of treachery, I am yet to come up with a proper term for it. #Sorry. Women know that p*ssy is power. With that being said, women will use that power to get what they want from their man in matters of their relationship. So fellas, if you are arguing with your lady, and are winning or are right, and then you get some sex...it means you have lost, buddy. You have lost because 99 out of 100 times after you get some mind blowing sex from your lady, you will not soften your position of whatever you where arguing with here about, you will more likely never bring that shit up again because you don't want her to withhold sex from you. Hence: she made you change.
Loser!
Now, there is a way for a man to (as we used to say in the early 90's) flip the script and rewrite it a new. No gentlemen, you could never make her change her mind or her position in the argument, but what you can do is what I like to call...Tame her. When your girlfriend offers you that "Argument Sex" take it, and remind her why you are MAN! By hitting out of the park like Ken Griffey Jr. used to do, you can make her never bring that subject up (until the next argument that you have because women like bringing up old shit). Even when she brings it back up...hit it outta the park further. Sooner or later you will see that, in time, she won't even bring that subject back up...and why? Because she has been tamed.
When I say tamed, I'm sure some women are going to become offended by the phrasing. But ladies, if you have ever settled on an argument that you have brought up twice, you settled because your man is hitting it right. And guys, if you have settled on an argument that she only had to bring up once, then your lady is putting down right. Job well done to those who are handling there business in the sack.
For the record, I will never be changed by any woman...#Sorry just wont happen.
But I have been known to tame a few in my day...#NotSorry
His song takes the idea of the two different planets, Mars and Venus (aka...man and woman) colliding with each other to make great sex (or some kinda smooth shit like that). But the original Mars and Venus contrast comes from the John Gray book titled "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus". The book (and following books in that series) pretty much goes in depth to explain that in relationships, men and women have huge differences in their ways of doing, expressing, and understanding pretty much everything.
Anyone who has been in enough relationships could understand this notion. Let's face it...this isn't an archeological find here people. It's not like I'm saying that you aren't supposed to have differences in a relationship but there has to be a line drawn somewhere, right? We all have have had that significant other that never seems to get "our" side of an argument. At times, that person seems to make the relationship almost or, in certain cases, not worth the trouble of being in it.
....
....
Here is where the duel of "Mars vs. Venus = Tamed vs. Change" happens.
....
....
My belief is that when couples have enough arguments or even simple disagreements, there comes sort of a breaking point that one or both parties reach. That breaking point brings the basics of the relationship to the surface...the Man vs. the Woman, vice verca. The nature of both the man and the woman come out swinging and neither want to back down. The woman's nature is to make the man be less of what his nature is...and the nature of the man is to be more of what his nature is and make the woman become more understanding of his nature. It's quite simple.
Example: A guy likes to hang out with the guys and drink beers and do guy shit like talk about guy stuff that he shouldn't really share with his girlfriend. Some women may want for their man to share the stories but no woman wants the man to do all of the other guy shit, at least not with them. But yet, a woman will complain if she feels like her man is spending too much time with they guys doing this guy shit. Her nature is to ultimately change him from doing all of that guy shit altogether because she doesn't do any of that shit. But, the mans nature is try to tame her from changing him, and try to get her to understand that he needs the guy time just to keep him balanced with his relationship.
The best way to have the duel of tame vs. change is to have that all out argument. If you do that, both the man and woman are going to be honest, just brutally. The 2nd worst way to have this duel is the settling way which is normally done by the man. Ladies, you may not know this but, we settle a lot of arguments with you by just keeping our mouths shut. The worst way of having the battle of tame vs. change is the mischievous way that women do it...unfortunately because women are ever evolving in their diabolical ways of treachery, I am yet to come up with a proper term for it. #Sorry. Women know that p*ssy is power. With that being said, women will use that power to get what they want from their man in matters of their relationship. So fellas, if you are arguing with your lady, and are winning or are right, and then you get some sex...it means you have lost, buddy. You have lost because 99 out of 100 times after you get some mind blowing sex from your lady, you will not soften your position of whatever you where arguing with here about, you will more likely never bring that shit up again because you don't want her to withhold sex from you. Hence: she made you change.
Loser!
Now, there is a way for a man to (as we used to say in the early 90's) flip the script and rewrite it a new. No gentlemen, you could never make her change her mind or her position in the argument, but what you can do is what I like to call...Tame her. When your girlfriend offers you that "Argument Sex" take it, and remind her why you are MAN! By hitting out of the park like Ken Griffey Jr. used to do, you can make her never bring that subject up (until the next argument that you have because women like bringing up old shit). Even when she brings it back up...hit it outta the park further. Sooner or later you will see that, in time, she won't even bring that subject back up...and why? Because she has been tamed.
When I say tamed, I'm sure some women are going to become offended by the phrasing. But ladies, if you have ever settled on an argument that you have brought up twice, you settled because your man is hitting it right. And guys, if you have settled on an argument that she only had to bring up once, then your lady is putting down right. Job well done to those who are handling there business in the sack.
For the record, I will never be changed by any woman...#Sorry just wont happen.
But I have been known to tame a few in my day...#NotSorry
when was the last time you read a book and what book was it?
I'm currently reading a book of poetry and sonnets by my former college instructor (and good friend) Tom Yuill. The book is titled "Medicine Show" and it's an awesome collection of his poems. Unfortunately Borders doesn't carry the book, but you can find it at Barnes & Nobles and/or online.
Monday, January 10, 2011
Saturday, January 8, 2011
Would you have a problem if you heard the "N" word from an Asian?
i do have a problem with it...but its not like they are the originators of the word. Also, some Asians have a history which is similar to that of African Americans...
Thursday, January 6, 2011
Can you cook? If so what is your favorite dish that you cook or what is your best thing you made?
umm...one question at a time...Yes I can cook, very well might I add. My best dish is probably chicken parmesan, I would like to learn to make lasagna like my grandma though
When are you going to put videos up on youtube?
i'm gonna shoot a video for "The Plug & The Outlet" in March
Monday, January 3, 2011
The Talk pt. 2...The Break Up
Okay.
Sorry for the disappearance act that I've pulled away from the blog. I mean it was the holidays and all, right?...whatever to you too.
Back in October I posted "The Talk" which was about the conversation that two people have to get into a relationship. The post was a fairly interesting one and got some great feedback. What surprised me was the amount of people that asked me to do a follow up of the opposite conversation...the talk that leads to break ups.
Unfortunately, I know a thing or two...or four about break ups and the conversations that ultimately end relationships. But there is never any cool or normal way to have that conversation, is there? Sure there is. For me, I never see any reason to give a damn about HOW to end the relationship verbally. Especially, when realistically it's already over. Here are some of my more interesting break up conversations. (ironically, they are all via phone lol)
Situation: My girl and I had been together for a few months and at the time I was working on my 1st project "Hard Pills". It was a mixtape that was pretty dark and personal. Needless to say I wasn't the most pleasant and easiest person to deal with at that time. I explained to my girl that I would be done with the project in two months and asked her to give me that much time to finish it and I promised her that I would be back to normal. At first she agreed, then 2 weeks later..................
Sonny: What's Wrong?
GirlFriend: I don't know. I don't think that I am as happy as I used to be.
Sonny: Is it because of me?
GF: Yeah. I just don't think I can wait for you to be finished. I'm just not happy and I don't know what to do.
Sonny: ..............*silence*................
GF: Hello?
Sonny: Umm...ok.
GF: ..............*silence*................
Sonny: Do you want me to help you with this?
GF: I guess.....
Sonny: How about we break up and try it again when you're happy?
GF: Uhhhh...O....K
*Sonny hangs up the phone*
Situation: Though I was young and still in college at the time, my relationship felt very real and was on the path to becoming serious.......until I came back from vacation to find out my girlfriend moved into another apartment (with a "friend from high school"....#CmonSon #GetTheFuckOuttaHereWitThatBullshit..........www.twitter.com/sonny_vega lol).
So obviously things changed since i took my ass on vacation. This was probably the 3rd or 4th conversation that we had since I returned home...
GF: I feel like you're not trying to move forward and take that next step with me.
Sonny: I mean, I'm just trying to get done with school. I want to be with you but the time for the next step isn't today.
GF: Well, I want to get married, settle down, and have a family.
Sonny: So what are you saying?
GF: Give me a ring, or I'm leaving!
Sonny: ..........*silence*...........
GF: Hello?
Sonny: I will bring your stuff to your job on Monday. We're done.
*Sonny hangs up the phone*
Situation: My girl and I broke up a few months prior to the following conversation. The next conversation is basically about how she saw pictures of me on Facebook and decided that because I was hugging 3 girls dressed as naughty school girls...that I was fucking all 3 of them (I only slept with one of the girls...but I'd like to think that all 3 girls were a possibility...anyway). The worst part about all of this childish shit is that I was single at the time those pictures were taken. So she started a fight about those pictures (and others) and the fact that I didn't have any pictures of us on Facebook.
**Side Note: at that time I was like a vault with my personal life when it came to facebook...and she was something personal to me. I treated facebook as strictly a social site, and the pictures that she saw were social pictures.
and now, the conversation...
Sonny: The girls are only friends to me, and I was single when we took those pics.
GF: Fuck that. You are trying to make it seem like you are some big player or something. You think that I want to see 3 bitches draped over you?
Sonny: No. But I since you are the reason I was single at that time...I don't think you get to tell me what to do about that time period in my life.
**Side Note: Some people bring out the worst in you. You know, they are the ones that will MAKE you tell them something to hurt their feelings. She was that person...although I never really believed that she had feelings at all. Let's just say that if Satan had a mother....she would worship this broad.
GF: So! I know you are fucking other bitches, Sonny. That's why you never put pictures of us up.
Sonny: What pictures? We don't have any, duh.
GF: Either take those pictures down or its over.
Sonny: Are you giving me an ultimatum?...over Facebook?...are you serious?
GF: Yes. I'm not playing with you.
Sonny: Well consider yourself single. I'm finished. I quit. And I'm going back to work.
*Sonny hangs up the phone*
I hear from people all of the time that they don't know how to have that conversation with their boyfriend / girlfriend to break up with them. For me, it's always been a piece of cake. It's not that I don't care about that person, but if I get to the point of breaking up...why have a discussion? I mean really, what fan watches the post game interview when their favorite team lost the game??? That's just adding insult to injury.
So maybe I should start a "break up messenger service" to do the dirty work for those people who find it too hard to tell their mate to KICK ROCKS!
Shout Out to every girl that I ever broke up with...you dolls are awesome...well except for one...but whatever. lol
Sorry for the disappearance act that I've pulled away from the blog. I mean it was the holidays and all, right?...whatever to you too.
Back in October I posted "The Talk" which was about the conversation that two people have to get into a relationship. The post was a fairly interesting one and got some great feedback. What surprised me was the amount of people that asked me to do a follow up of the opposite conversation...the talk that leads to break ups.
Unfortunately, I know a thing or two...or four about break ups and the conversations that ultimately end relationships. But there is never any cool or normal way to have that conversation, is there? Sure there is. For me, I never see any reason to give a damn about HOW to end the relationship verbally. Especially, when realistically it's already over. Here are some of my more interesting break up conversations. (ironically, they are all via phone lol)
Situation: My girl and I had been together for a few months and at the time I was working on my 1st project "Hard Pills". It was a mixtape that was pretty dark and personal. Needless to say I wasn't the most pleasant and easiest person to deal with at that time. I explained to my girl that I would be done with the project in two months and asked her to give me that much time to finish it and I promised her that I would be back to normal. At first she agreed, then 2 weeks later..................
Sonny: What's Wrong?
GirlFriend: I don't know. I don't think that I am as happy as I used to be.
Sonny: Is it because of me?
GF: Yeah. I just don't think I can wait for you to be finished. I'm just not happy and I don't know what to do.
Sonny: ..............*silence*................
GF: Hello?
Sonny: Umm...ok.
GF: ..............*silence*................
Sonny: Do you want me to help you with this?
GF: I guess.....
Sonny: How about we break up and try it again when you're happy?
GF: Uhhhh...O....K
*Sonny hangs up the phone*
Situation: Though I was young and still in college at the time, my relationship felt very real and was on the path to becoming serious.......until I came back from vacation to find out my girlfriend moved into another apartment (with a "friend from high school"....#CmonSon #GetTheFuckOuttaHereWitThatBullshit..........www.twitter.com/sonny_vega lol).
So obviously things changed since i took my ass on vacation. This was probably the 3rd or 4th conversation that we had since I returned home...
GF: I feel like you're not trying to move forward and take that next step with me.
Sonny: I mean, I'm just trying to get done with school. I want to be with you but the time for the next step isn't today.
GF: Well, I want to get married, settle down, and have a family.
Sonny: So what are you saying?
GF: Give me a ring, or I'm leaving!
Sonny: ..........*silence*...........
GF: Hello?
Sonny: I will bring your stuff to your job on Monday. We're done.
*Sonny hangs up the phone*
Situation: My girl and I broke up a few months prior to the following conversation. The next conversation is basically about how she saw pictures of me on Facebook and decided that because I was hugging 3 girls dressed as naughty school girls...that I was fucking all 3 of them (I only slept with one of the girls...but I'd like to think that all 3 girls were a possibility...anyway). The worst part about all of this childish shit is that I was single at the time those pictures were taken. So she started a fight about those pictures (and others) and the fact that I didn't have any pictures of us on Facebook.
**Side Note: at that time I was like a vault with my personal life when it came to facebook...and she was something personal to me. I treated facebook as strictly a social site, and the pictures that she saw were social pictures.
and now, the conversation...
Sonny: The girls are only friends to me, and I was single when we took those pics.
GF: Fuck that. You are trying to make it seem like you are some big player or something. You think that I want to see 3 bitches draped over you?
Sonny: No. But I since you are the reason I was single at that time...I don't think you get to tell me what to do about that time period in my life.
**Side Note: Some people bring out the worst in you. You know, they are the ones that will MAKE you tell them something to hurt their feelings. She was that person...although I never really believed that she had feelings at all. Let's just say that if Satan had a mother....she would worship this broad.
GF: So! I know you are fucking other bitches, Sonny. That's why you never put pictures of us up.
Sonny: What pictures? We don't have any, duh.
GF: Either take those pictures down or its over.
Sonny: Are you giving me an ultimatum?...over Facebook?...are you serious?
GF: Yes. I'm not playing with you.
Sonny: Well consider yourself single. I'm finished. I quit. And I'm going back to work.
*Sonny hangs up the phone*
I hear from people all of the time that they don't know how to have that conversation with their boyfriend / girlfriend to break up with them. For me, it's always been a piece of cake. It's not that I don't care about that person, but if I get to the point of breaking up...why have a discussion? I mean really, what fan watches the post game interview when their favorite team lost the game??? That's just adding insult to injury.
So maybe I should start a "break up messenger service" to do the dirty work for those people who find it too hard to tell their mate to KICK ROCKS!
Shout Out to every girl that I ever broke up with...you dolls are awesome...well except for one...but whatever. lol
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